There is Beauty in Aliveness: When We Leave the Past Behind
May 28, 2021 09:31AM ● By Gisele Rinaldi Siebold
Reaching for one positive thought and then
another can begin to build a path of hope out of the depths of despair created
by anxiety and depression. Fear-induced anxiety paralyzes inherent behaviors
that were once used to problem solve and create. Depression can wreak havoc on
the whole person—mind, body and spirit. Seeking help for ourselves or our loved
ones from local educated professionals and experienced clinicians is the first
step toward breaking free from the negative effects of anxiety and depression.
“Depression sends us spiraling negatively into
overthinking, shaming and hopelessness,” describes Meagan Good, MA, LPC, counselor
and founder of Take Heart Counseling & Equine Assisted Therapy, in Wernersville.
“One coping skill to stop the spiral is called ‘grounding’
or the ‘5-4-3-2-1 technique’. It utilizes our five senses to recenter ourselves
in the present. Grounding is a great tool because you can do it quickly
wherever you are, or make time to really enjoy it. All you do is begin to
describe what you sense around you, in detail if possible: five things you see,
four things you feel or touch, three things you hear, two things you smell and one
thing you taste.”
“When
we look closely at depression, we find many reasons to point to—poor nutrition,
consistent negative self-talk and self-blame, abuse in our family of origin,
significant ancestral loss and trauma and structural racism in our society,”
suggests Karen Carnabucci, LCSW, TEP, founder of the Lancaster School of
Psychodrama and Experiential Psychotherapies.
“Yet
depression is also an opportunity to change. When teaching my trainees at the
Lancaster School of Psychodrama, we focus on identifying the roles that people
play, the roles that are calling to us and the roles that carry the aliveness
that we want. We learn how to support people in changing these roles, leaving
the role of ‘The Depressed One’ and transitioning to, perhaps, ‘The One
Embracing Aliveness’,” she explains.
“While anxiety is typically focused on future
concerns, depression is often focused on past events and what we grew to
believe about how the events defined us,” says Good. “But we
are not defined by what we did or what happened to us. If you feel
like you need proof, ask an animal. Animals respond honestly to who we are in
the moment, without the ability to lie to appease or manipulate us. When an
animal connects with you, it’s because they genuinely want to be with you. They
see something in you that maybe you don’t yet see in yourself—someone worthy of
connection, nurture and love.”
Acknowledging the need for self-care, seeking
inspiration from animals and the natural world and surrounding ourselves with
positive people and experiences are the lanterns that can light the path toward
new beginnings. When we leave the past behind and summon the courage to choose
where we want to go, we find beauty in being alive and experience the peace
that we seek.
Sources
Lancaster
School of Psychodrama and Experiential Psychotherapies is located at Liberty
Place, 313 W. Liberty St., Ste. 263, in Lancaster. For more information, call
717-466-0788 or visit RealTrueKaren.com.
Take Heart Counseling & Equine Assisted
Therapy is located at 699 Wooltown Rd., in Wernersville. For
more information, call 717-917-7137, email [email protected] or
visit TakeHeartCounseling.com.